Have you ever quit a job, then second-guessed yourself? Ever WANTED to quit a job, but could see no possible way to do it? Maybe you felt “trapped” in the job because of several reasons, like “I need the money”, or “Gotta pay the bills”… perhaps you’ve “got a family to take care of”.
How is it possible to quit one’s job and not feel guilty about it? Let’s find out 🙂A few years back, when I was confronted with the decision of whether or not to re-enlist (again!?) in the Navy, it was quite a quandry. I had all the thoughts mentioned above. I was in a job that I basically couldn’t stand any longer. The work itself isn’t particularly hard, unless you cound the occasional months-long time away from friends, family and any semblance of a “normal” life. I was ok with that part, because I was the one who signed up.
One thing that I find interesting, however, is that as you come up to decision points such as this, you will find out a lot about yourself, as well as a lot about the people in your life who care about you.
You will invariably be offered up truckloads of advice, whether it is asked for or not. Those in your life who care and want only the “very best” for you will give you their version of what is best for you.
Enough about that stuff. I could write a whole post just about that.
The question before us is “How can I, in good faith, quit the job I’ve got to pursue something BETTER?”
I just recently had the pleasure of reading Steve Pavlina’s post titled “Don?t Die With Your Music Still In You“. Basically, in this post, which I highly recommend reading, Steve talks about whether we really lose anything of value by dumping jobs or lines of work that are not in alignment with our purpose.
I’ve been planning to write this post for a few days now, and when I ran across Steve’s post, it sorta solidified the deal for me. I am focusing more and more on synchronicities and alpha reflections (his term) now.
So, the way I see it, there are really only two ways to quit a job. They are:
- Out alignment and congruence with your purpose, and
- In of alignment and congruence with your purpose.
By this, I mean, the manner in which you leave your job, in my opinion, should match up with the reason you are leaving the job you currently have. I’ve known several people who quit their job(s) in a fit of passionate anger. Later on, they justified it to themselves with statements such as, “It’s the principle of the thing”.
They quit the job without having a clear sense of WHERE they were going or WHY they were going there. This is akin to jumping out of a boat when there is no other in sight, and no hope of ever seeing one. I’m not saying you should always have a job lined up before you quit, per se. What I am saying is that you should have an IDEA of what you would like to attract into your life. If you just quit your job willy-nilly, and couple that with the intensity of anger, you are sure to attract more situations that are in congruence with willy-nilly anger.
Out of alignment
Let’s say you’re not happy with the job situation you are in. By taking the time to find out what you are all about, you are more likely to be able to attract more of what you want, and less of what you do not want. Along with this, comes the notion of “Blessing where you are now, on the way to where you are going”.
So, basically, the “right” way to quit a job, is to first know WHY you are doing so, and not going through with it until you are at a sense of peace with the job. Recognize the job as a stepping stone, a learning experience. Feel genuine gratitude for the job for that reason. Treat it as a good friend that you are simply growing apart from, and release it, and let it go.
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